Who is in Your Corner?

I want you to take the next 30 seconds to focus on you. I’ll help with the task by asking the following questions.

Do you feel like you are being pushed and pulled between priorities in your personal life and your work or business? Do you feel like something is going to give soon if you don’t find a better way to balance things?

Are you excited or anxious about areas in your life that you want to work on but you just simply don’t know where, when or how to actually start?

If you answered yes to any of the questions above, I want you to read on.

Just as many people have personal trainers to help them work towards their physical fitness goals, there are personal trainers to help individuals work towards their life goals.

That is, of course, what I do for so many people as a personal life coach. I’m that personal trainer that’s in your corner as you prepare to face life’s opportunities and challenges.

Now a lot of people think they know what life coaching is all about. You’ve received my personal tips and newsletters, so you may think you have an idea of what’s involved, but I really want to ensure that you have an understanding of what coaching can actually DO for you.

Working with a life coach is a process that helps you to understand where you are today, where you want to go and the steps you’ll take to get there.

Unlike therapy which looks to your past to determine why you are the way you are, coaching looks ahead. If what you really want is to move from dreaming to taking action on those things that will move you towards your life goals then I encourage you to contact me. As your personal life coach I will work with you to visualize that path to fulfillment.

When you choose to work with a life coach you are taking the first action-oriented step to moving yourself from that sometimes paralyzing state of inaction to goal realization.

Whether you want to get more organized in your home, improve the quality of your family life or achieve success in your business or profession—you’ll feel empowered to make these goals a reality with the professional guidance of a life coach. As your “personal” life coach I’ll be cheering you on every…step…of…the…way.

The concept of coaching isn’t new. Most of us have benefited from coaching of some sort at some point in our lives. From childhood little league baseball to meaningful mentors in our work and personal life—coaches provide that special supportive relationship we sometimes need to build confidence and to succeed.

As your life coach I’ll be there to help clear away the fog so you can clearly see that first step of that first challenge or opportunity that you want to work through. I’ll be your sounding board, mentor, advisor, trainer and motivator helping you to stay focused and to follow through on your personal and professional goals.

What are you waiting for? Contact me today and let’s talk about your future. Take advantage of my free initial consultation and let me help you realize and release your full potential!

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Coaching Corner: Self Esteem Building

Low self-esteem can negatively affect virtually every part of your life, including your career, health and your relationships. If you are struggling with bouts of low self esteem, can raise your self-esteem to a healthy level, even if you’re an adult who’s been harboring a negative self-image since childhood.

Here are self esteem building tips:

1 - Start each morning and end each day with a positive statement or thought. Create your own mantra (i.e. “I am intelligent”, “I will have a positive day”, “I will succeed”).

2 - Get to know the TRUE you and accept yourself. Concentrate on your uniqueness and don’t ever compare yourself to other people. You are a one-of-a-kind individual with special qualities. Make sure that you are yourself at all times and surround yourself with people who appreciate you for who you are. The more you accept your true self the more others will do the same.

3 - Make a list of all your positive characteristics and achievements. Keep adding to this list as time goes on and be sure to keep your list in a place where you can access it and read it at will.

4 - Choose your words/thoughts carefully; Take time to replace negative thoughts with positive ones. If you are faced with a challenging task — instead of saying, “I will never get this done on time” rephrase your word/thoughts into positives: “When I finish this task I will treat myself to something nice” or “This may be challenging but I can do this”.

5 - Take what you are good at and enhance it. Let others know about it! Hold your head up high, be proud and know that you have a special gift inside of you

Once you have tried out a few of these self esteem building tips, consider making them a permanent part of your life. For most people, good self esteem is not just a happy accident, it’s a result of the way they think and the things they do daily.

My goal in life is to help others, especially women, live a truly successful, less stressed, emotionally and physically healthy life, and through life coaching, she is doing just that.

No matter how big or how small your need is, Real Life Coaching is the answer to getting the help you need. Sign up now for your free coaching consultation!

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Get on the road to a happier, more fulfilled and less stressed life with Real Life Coach Aurelia Williams. You’ve got nothing to lose and life to gain!

How to Live Stress-Free By Saying “No”

We all know the adage, “A mother’s work is never done.” In fact, this could become a modern-day mother’s theme song since we all have overbooked schedules and everybody wants something done yesterday.

We teach our children from a young age that it is impolite to say the word, “No,” which was a lesson we learned in childhood, too. Now as adults, it is increasingly difficult to say, “No,” to anyone for fear of being rude or being seen as unreliable. Mothers need to learn that saying, “No,” as an adult is not rude. Rather, it is a sign of someone who is in control of her life and her schedule. She knows what she is capable of accomplishing and she is aware of her other commitments.

Here are a few ways to gain back control of your life, simply by learning how to say, “No”:

1. Be selective when choosing to volunteer your time. Being involved in your child’s school IS important but that does not mean you have to serve on every committee. Instead, choose one or two activities or committees that interest you and schedule that time on your planner.

2. Set limits on after-school activities. Sports teams or dance lessons are fun and help improve social skills but that does not mean your children have to be on a different team each season or take multiple lessons a week. Instead, teach your children how to choose activities that are most important to them and keep their focus on their studies.

3. Set boundaries with your clients. Your clients should not run your life. Instead, you should have a clear, working partnership in which each partner knows what is expected. If you can still give your clients good customer service during set office hours, then do so. Chances are they would not want you calling during their family time so why should they interrupt during your family time?

4. Be honest about your skills. If you are not qualified to complete a particular project, whether it is a paid or volunteer project, be honest with your client and recommend someone with the right qualifications. Passing the job along to someone else who is qualified will show that you are in control of your schedule, you are honest about your skill level and you value the importance of the project by giving it to someone who can complete it properly.

5. Keep your calendar or planner up to date and use it. Schedule everything on one calendar, even exercise and family time, and keep it near the phone for easy reference when someone calls asking for a favor.

Bad habits are hard to break and saying, “Yes,” to too many things can be considered a bad habit. Before committing to anything, spend some quiet time with yourself and decide what things you want to be a part of and how much time you have in your days. Sometimes we must compromise so we can successfully balance our family, work and volunteer lives.

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Fear Of Failure

Have you ever held back on doing something because you had a fear of failure? Most people have! Let’s face it; no one likes to fail. None of us likes to feel like we’re ineffective, weak or lacking in any way, and that’s exactly how failure makes us feel.

However, you may be surprised to know that failure doesn’t exist – until YOU say it does. In the dictionary, failure has several definitions:

- a failing to do or perform
- a state of inability to perform a normal function adequately
- a fracturing or giving way under stress
- a lack of success.

Look carefully at those definitions and you’ll probably realize they have one thing in common when it comes to goal achievement: failure is a PERCEPTION.

If you believe you have failed, then you have. If you believe you don’t have the ability to succeed, then you don’t. If you believe you can’t handle the pressure of achieving your goals, you can’t. If you believe you’re not successful, you aren’t. The moment you decide to give up or stop working toward your goals, failure is born.

But what if you never do that? What if you continue working toward your goals, one step at a time for as long as it takes? There’s no failure then, is there?

Here are three tips to help you overcome your fear of failure and stay strong and focused on your goals:

1- Never give yourself an out. Most people do this without even realizing it. They are willing to work hard on achieving their goals, until the going gets too rough or their motivation dwindles. Don’t do that! Commit to making your goals happen, no matter what! Never quit, never contemplate admitting failure, and never lose your inner determination.

2 - Don’t get hooked on a specific timeframe for completion. It’s okay to set a general timeline, but be aware that some circumstances will be beyond your control, so you can’t say for sure when your goal will be achieved. If you do that, you’re just setting yourself up for failure! Instead, get a general idea of when you’d like your goal to be completed, but then take it a day at a time and focus on making progress, not reaching the finish line in as little time as possible.

3 - Finally, be sure that you don’t view obstacles and setbacks as failures. The two are completely different. An obstacle, setback or delay means only one thing: it’s not time for your goal to be completed yet. That’s it! It doesn’t mean you failed; it doesn’t mean you’re weak; it doesn’t mean you’ll never achieve your goals. It simply means you’re not done yet. You’ve got to keep moving forward and find a way around or through the obstacle.

By following the tips above you will soon put your fear of failure behind you and start accomplishing your goals.

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The Power of Positive Thinking

Many people come to me for help in finding ways for them to shift their thinking to to thoughts that are positive. The power of positive thinking can and will change and improve your life. Maintaining positive thinking will lead you to success and happiness in both your personal and professional life.

The following tips provide practical suggestions that you can use to help you shift into more positive thinking patterns:

Remind Yourself of the Things You Are Grateful For - Stresses and challenges don’t seem quite as bad when you are constantly reminding yourself of the things that are right in life. Taking just 60 seconds a day to stop and appreciate the good things will make a huge difference.

Detach From Negative Thoughts - Your thoughts can’t hold any power over you if you don’t judge them. If you notice yourself having a negative thought, detach from it, witness it, and don’t follow it.

Squash the “ANTs” - In his book “Change Your Brain, Change Your Life,” Dr. Daniel Amen talks about “ANTs” - Automatic Negative Thoughts. These are the bad thoughts that are usually reactionary, like “Those people are laughing, they must be talking about me,” or “The boss wants to see me? It must be bad!” When you notice these thoughts, realize that they are nothing more than ANTs and squash them!

Practice Lovin’, Touchin’ & Squeezin’ (Your Friends and Family) - You don’t have to be an expert to know the benefits of a good hug. Positive physical contact with friends, loved ones, and even pets, is an instant pick-me-up. One research study on this subject had a waitress touch some of her customers on the arm as she handed them their checks. She received higher tips from these customers than from the ones she didn’t touch!

Increase Your Social Activity - By increasing social activity, you decrease loneliness. Surround yourself with healthy, happy people, and their positive energy will affect you in a positive way!

Volunteer for an Organization, or Help another Person - Everyone feels good after helping. You can volunteer your time, your money, or your resources. The more positive energy you put out into the world, the more you will receive in return.

Use Pattern Interrupts to Combat Rumination - If you find yourself ruminating, a great way to stop it is to interrupt the pattern and force yourself to do something completely different. Rumination is like hyper-focus on something negative. It’s never productive, because it’s not rational or solution-oriented, it’s just excessive worry. Try changing your physical environment - go for a walk or sit outside. You could also call a friend, pick up a book, or turn on some music.

The power of positive thinking is life changing. It will help you to be more optimistic and hopeful. Positive thinking is something that everyone can acheive with practice and at times, help from others.

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