Why Do So Many Women Suffer from Lack of Self Confidence?

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More and more, the number one complaint I hear from women, whether in the business or in general, is that they don’t have enough confidence in themselves to do the things they want to do. So, I asked myself, “Why do so many women suffer from lack of self confidence”? I believe it is the main reason so many women get into abusive relationships, don’t step out and reach their goals for themselves, in business, in their homes, and in ministry, and why so many women are hurting and lonely today.

What is the cause of low self esteem and lack of confidence?

I believe low self esteem and lack of confidence go hand in hand. When you don’t feel good about the way you look, the job you’re in, how you handle finances, or about your relationships and how you relate to others, you tend to hide and shrink back from being all you can be. Not liking yourself leaks into other areas of your life causing you to miss out on promotions because you were too afraid to ask, or developing a relationship with other females because you were jealous of the way they look or dressed, or position they held. Does this sound familiar? If you’re like most women it probably does.

So, where does all this lack of self confidence come from? Often it stems from childhood, or perhaps a bad relationship. Most often, the way someone else has treated us or words that were said once or a thousand times, have been engrained into our minds, causing us to think lowly of ourselves.

Media is another confidence killer, if we allow it. Movie and TV stars who appear to have perfect bodies, teach us that we’re supposed to look like that and if we don’t then no man will ever love us and we’ll never get a good paying job. I want you to know right now, that is a lie from the pit of hell. Most of the women on TV and in the movies have personal trainers and nutritionists that regulate what they eat and when and how much they exercise. I know most of us in the United States can’t afford to hire personal trainers and nutritionists, nor do we have the desire to live that kind of lifestyle. And the women you see on the covers of magazines are air brushed and photo-shopped to look the way they do…not to mention all the Botox and facelifts celebrities have these days.

But even still, other people and the media are not the cause of our low self esteem and lack of confidence. They are not the root of the problem. The root is much deeper and within ourselves and we can overcome these feelings. You can retrain your brain to think good thoughts about yourself no matter how low your self esteem is or bad you lack confidence. You can be taught how not to let yourself think bad thoughts about yourself, not be jealous of others and how to forgive yourself when you make mistakes. You can learn how to exude confidence and hold your head high and you can learn how to relate well to others no matter their social status or yours.

“How do I do this”, you’re probably asking? With the help of a life coach. A life coach can help you see why you’re suffering from low self esteem, help you get to the root of it, and help you overcome it. Get started on the road to a confident new you today and start living the life you’ve always dreamed of.

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Mom, Don’t Forget About You

If you are a mom, more than likely you know the feeling of having a full schedule. Rushing around, taking a kid to soccer, another to dance class, rush to pick up the dry cleaning and then running home to get cookies baked for the youngest child’s snack day. As moms we have full schedules, usually too full. Our days are full of work, errands and children’s activities. In most mom’s schedules there is one thing missing. Time for mom.

As a mom you are a caretaker. You take care of everyone that depends on you, but who is there to take care of you? As a busy mom you need to remember to take care of yourself. A healthy and happy mom will make the rest of the family happy. The old saying is very true, “if mom ain’t happy, then no one is happy.”

The problem is that you do so much when do you have time for you. There are only so many hours in the day and they are filled with family, work, household upkeep and the various other things that we as moms commit ourselves to. We have to realize that taking time for ourselves is essential for everyone under our roofs. Let’s start with the small stuff and work our way towards the larger things.

Is there an activity that you really enjoy but can never find the time for? Maybe it is the time in the gym, working out with aerobics or walking. These are great activities. They are enjoyable and even better, they are good for you. But sometimes as a mom, these are just hard to find the time to fit into our schedules. Get your kids involved. Find out if the gym you go to has kids activities or will allow younger participants into class. Walking is an activity that kids love to do as well. Take them for walks out through the neighborhood or find a local park with a walking trail. Kids will enjoy getting out and getting exercise.

Need to find an activity that doesn’t involve the kids? Want to find a few hours a day when you can do something simply for you? But just simply can’t manage to find the time with the kids? Consider a kid swap. You aren’t the only mom out there that needs a bit of time to herself to catch up and recharge. There are lots of us out there. Consider swapping your kids out for a Saturday afternoon or weeknight evening. You take the kids of a friend for an afternoon and she returns the favor by taking your children for an afternoon. Just be sure that you spend that time on you. Go shopping, relax, spend an hour at a spa or even curl up with a good book. Just do something fun for you.

Your days are full of activities, children and more activities. As a mom you take care of so many people. Finding time for yourself may not be easy, but you really need to do it. Finding even a spare five minutes where you can indulge in something purely for you will help your outlook.

Aurelia Williams is a certified life coach and author of Getting Out Of The Super Mom Trap. Learn how to overcome the situations that cause you to feel stressed, overwhelmed, and, most likely, under appreciated.

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Mommy Guilt – How to Stop it

Mommy guilt is one of the most common feelings mothers go through at some time. Moms will feel guilt for not being able to provide the very best for their children. This makes them see themselves as inferior at being a parent as other moms. Just remember that you are not alone. There are many other moms who go through the same thing. Here are some ways to help combat the mommy guilt before it takes over your self esteem.

Be nice to yourself – Every mom has experienced a moment, when raising their child, where something happened to them that made the mom feel like it was their fault. This is probably one of the most popular forms of mommy guilt ever. Your child falls and bruises their knee; your immediate reaction is to berate yourself as a mother.

“I’m a terrible mother,” is how it usually begins. Be kind to yourself, because you are a good mother. Things will happen with your child and no matter how hard you try to provide for the safest environment possible, things will still happen. It doesn’t mean you’re a bad mother.

Release the need to control everything - Remind yourself that you are not in control of everything that happens to your child. A part of growing up is learning from mistakes. The harder you try to keep them from everything bad out there, the harder they will ultimately fight you on it.

Even though you are an involved parent and see after your child, there is no way you can prevent some things from happening. Just spend that energy on being there for your child to help them through life and not try so hard to control it.

Trust yourself - You are the best person for the tough job called ‘Mommy’ to your child. Don’t second-guess yourself. When your intuition says that your child shouldn’t be doing something; then learn to trust it and stand firm. Don’t give in just because you don’t want them mad at you. Your internal leads are there for a reason.

Don’t cave in to guilt trips - Kids like to take their parents down guilt trip lane. We all want our children to have and do whatever they want, but it’s not always the safest or best thing for them. When you make a decision, stick to your guns.

Don’t allow others to influence your parental decisions - It’s typical for other parents to offer unwarranted advice. While it’s nice to receive other’s opinions on something about your child, you are ultimately the one who will need to make the decision. If you are faced with this kind of circumstance; clearly tell them that you appreciate their opinion and will keep it in mind, but don’t let them influence you too much on your decisions.

You know your child, better than anyone, so you are the one that will know what’s best for them. All parents as well as kids make mistakes, so it’s important not to let yourself doubt your mothering abilities. You’re raising your kids the best you can, so it’s time to start believing in yourself.

Aurelia Williams is a certified life coach and author of Real Life Guidance to Balancing Work And Family an Easy Step-By-Step Guide To Balancing Your Work And Family Time.

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How a Life Coach can Help you in these Tough Economic Times

Have you considered hiring a life coach to help you with depression, financial struggles, organization or other life issues but think you can’t afford it? In these tough economic times it’s understandable to think that.

With the current state of the economy perhaps you are struggling to make ends meet, losing your home to foreclosure, facing bankruptcy or simply unable to pay your bills on time. Any one of these situations can cause additional stress and even lead to depression. Then because you’re feeling depressed other circumstances in life tend to seem unbearable, causing more depression.

You may be thinking that you can’t afford to hire a life coach on top of all the other financial stresses in your life, but actually a life coach can help you get your finances, as well as other areas in your life, in order.

A life coach can help you see where you can cut costs, teach you how to spend less and live on a budget. When you’re living within your means, a lot of stress is relieved from your life, which can help conquer feelings of depression.

Another way a life coach can help is by teaching you how to become more organized, whether in your business or your personal life. Sometimes when your life is in disarray, you may tend to feel more depressed or blue. Having a life coach can help you see areas in your life where you may need more organization including setting up a schedule for yourself and your family, and even your business. Being organized and having a schedule can help you feel more in control of your life, therefore reducing stress in your life.

Often depression may be brought on because you don’t feel victorious in certain areas of your life. A life coach can help you build your self image and self esteem which will give you more confidence to do the things you’ve always dreamed of. When you begin accomplishing some of the things you’ve always wanted to you will begin to feel a heightened sense of well being along with a positive attitude.

Life coaching packages come in a variety of levels and through various media to meet every budget. Take a look at all the packages and ways life coaching can help you get back on the road to a positive, joyous and successful life.