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How to Cope with Stressful Changes in Your Life

February 27, 2010

Life is always changing. When life throws you changes that you like, they are usually easy to deal with and you look forward to the change. Changes that are indifferent to you are usually easy to cope with as well and you usually just go with the flow. But, how about the changes in life that you dread or that are unexpected; how do you handle those?

Job loss is probably one of the most stressful changes in a person’s life today, especially now in the US. However, by looking at the situation differently, job loss doesn’t have to be stressful.
When you are faced with job loss, try to think of it as a new opportunity; an opportunity to try something new and different or an opportunity or do something you’ve always wanted to do or love to do. Try to look at job loss as a new beginning instead of looking at is as the end.

How about moving or transferring to another area? Moving away from people you love can be very stressful and difficult, but it doesn’t have to be. If you look at it as an opportunity to stretch your horizons and meet new people, moving can be fun and exciting. However, I also know this can be difficult sometimes, especially when you love the area you live in now, or all your friends and family are here or you love your church or other organizations you belong to. Your friends and family will still be there, and you will still be able to be in contact with them through the Internet or by phone on a regular basis. And now you will be able to make more friends and perhaps a church family or neighbors will “adopt” you as their family.

Some other changes in life that tend to be stressful, but can be seen as a new opportunity are:

• An unexpected pregnancy. Obviously this can cause stress financially, emotionally, physically and mentally. However, it is definitely a new opportunity; a new opportunity to love a child and to give life. A new opportunity to make some lifestyle changes or even to give life to someone who can’t have children of their own through adoption.

• A child going off to college or moving away from home is a huge change that many find difficult to deal with. Once again, look at the opportunities available not only to you, but for your son or daughter as well. Maybe you’ll be able to downsize your home, saving you hundreds of dollars each month. Or perhaps you’ll be able to turn their room into a guest room or office that you’ve always wanted; not to mention the growth and experience they are going to gain as they grow and mature out in the world on their own.

You can either look at life changes as a new opportunity or as a stressful situation. How you choose to handle a situation will determine how much stress you’re going to allow on yourself. The choice is yours and as soon as you begin looking at life changes as new opportunities the sooner you will have a lot less stress in your life.

Get help from someone who will help you with lifes changes. A life coach can help you recognize the areas in which you lack confidence, show you ways you can practice appearing more self confident and help you face your fears without feeling like you’re jumping off a cliff without a safety net.

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Lack of Confidence can destroy Relationships

February 23, 2010

Women, more than men, tend to lack self confidence because of the way we’re made. Women are more nurturing and tend to care about what others think of them and are more sensitive to what others are thinking. Because of this caring/nurturing nature, women are more likely to suffer from low self confidence as opposed to men. Lack of self confidence can cause problems in relationships a couple of ways.

Low Self Confidence Causes Insecurity in Relationships

When you are not sure of yourself, you probably have a hard time believing someone could love you just the way you are, therefore, this causes trust issues. You tend to think your boyfriend or spouse is out cheating on you when they are late coming home, or perhaps you even find yourself trying to control their every move. These kinds of actions can cause the other party to want to end the relationship. This is true of friendship as well. Have you ever had a friend who couldn’t stand you being friends with anyone else? It’s because they are insecure in themselves and don’t believe you’re a true friend if you have more than one friend.

Low Self Confidence Can Cause Infidelity in a Relationship

When a person suffers from low self confidence, they may also tend to stray and cheat on their partner. For example, someone comes along who gives them more attention than their partner does, so they leave their spouse or boy/girlfriend for the one giving them more attention at that time. Instead of being secure in themselves and their relationship, a person with low self confidence flees from the first sign of trouble, or the first time someone else pays attention to them.

If you’ve been having trouble keeping relationships alive or find yourself trying to control your partners every move and always worrying about what they’re doing, you probably suffer from lack of self confidence. A life coach can help you see the areas where you lack confidence as well as help you to overcome self confidence issues. Click here for a free, 20 minute consultation and start living the life you’ve always dreamed of….strong and confident.

Four Ways to Gain More Self Confidence

February 1, 2010

Lack of self confidence affects women more than men because of the way we’re wired. Women have been wired to be more intuitive and nurturing than men, and therefore the hormones and other factors in a woman’s brain affect the way she sees herself. Her intuitions and sense of nurturing also cause her to worry and care more about how other people see her. But, there are ways you can gain more self confidence despite your hormones and wiring.
1. Recognize that you lack self confidence. Before you can overcome lack of self confidence, you must recognize what it is. Some people go through life afraid to do certain things, not realizing it’s a confidence issue. For instance, if you have stage fright, most likely it’s because you’re unsure of your ability to speak or sing or whatever the case may be. So, search yourself and if needed, get some help from someone experienced with helping others overcome lack of self confidence, like a life coach.
2. Practice being more self confident. You probably know people who exude self confidence. Emulate them by ‘walking tall’, sitting confidently and upright, holding your head up high when you walk across a room and looking at others directly in the eye when you speak to them. It won’t be easy at first, but the more you practice appearing confident on the outside, the more you will start to feel confident on the inside.
3. Face your fears. When you’re in a situation that makes you feel insecure or unsure about yourself, recognize it and deal with it. Ask yourself: “What about this situation makes me feel the way I do?” Then once you know what makes you feel anxious, face your fear and do whatever it is you’re fearful of. You will never be able to get over your fears if you never take steps out of your comfort zone.
4. Get help from someone who will help you with the above steps. A life coach can help you recognize the areas in which you lack confidence, show you ways you can practice appearing more self confident and help you face your fears without feeling like you’re jumping off a cliff without a safety net. 

 

 

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