Steps to Positive Thinking

Taking steps to postive thinking is very imporatnt in leading a happy life.  When you use positive thinking, you begine to tak action against your worries and start to leave them behind.

While taking steps to postive thinking, you may encounter many  many struggles along the way, one of which is excessive worry.   When you are working with negative thinking, often takes the form of worrying about things that are completely beyond your control. These thoughts can soon consume your life. This is why it’s important to take steps to positive thinking techniques to address your worries (both rational and irrational).

Step 1: Notice Your Worry

The first step in these positive thinking techniques is to notice that you’re worrying. As with negative thinking, worrying about anything and everything can become a habit that you do without thinking. Start by trying to catch your worries before they take hold.

Step 2: Ask Yourself Important Questions

Next, you need to question your worry. Is it something you can do something about right now? Or is it something you have no control over?

If it’s something you can’t do anything about, and that you have no control over, you simply have to tell yourself that fact. There’s nothing you can do, so distract yourself to put the worry out of your mind. Whatever you do, don’t take time to think about the consequences of your worry. There is no point.

Step 3: Take Action

If the worry concerns something that you can do something about, then take action and do something about it! You may be able to do something about it right now, in which case you should. Doing it now will mean you can simply forget about it for the rest of the day, and can feel comforted by the fact that you have taken action.

If you can’t do something about the worry right now then there is one thing you can do to ease your mind – schedule a time to address your worry later in the day or week and leave your worry to rest.

Step 4: Switch Your Focus

Whether you realize that you can’t do anything about your worry, or you take action now or schedule it later, the next step is to put the worry out of your mind. By following all of the steps above, you know that you’ve done everything in your power to take control of your circumstances. There is nothing left to worry about.

In some cases, simply recognizing the above fact may be enough to stop you worrying. In others, however, you may need to distract your focus onto something else. For example, if you’re searching on Google about the things you’re worrying about, you may need to stop and get away from the computer to stop your worrying. Or you may want to go out and take a walk to get a change of scenery.

These positive thinking techniques may seem simple, but they can make a huge difference between worry that can actually be productive, and worry that takes up your whole day. Learning to control what you can and to forget about what you can’t control really is one of the most important steps to becoming a more positive person.

Home Organization Help for Busy Moms

If you’re a mom then you’re busy, there’s no question about it.  However, there are some mothers out there who are incredibly busy as they not only manage the household but they also work a full-time job (regardless of whether it’s from home or away from home).  These women often feel as if their “work” is never done, because it never really is. Just think about it, moms are busy from the time they wake up in the morning until the time they go to bed.
While a mother’s work is never over, busy moms don’t have to be stressed out about it all and we are here to offer help for busy moms.  One of the things that will help reduce your stress level tremendously is getting your home organized. This is especially true for work at home moms as their homes are also their offices.

Below are some tips that will help you get everything organized so you can enjoy your life (no matter how busy it is) once again!

Help For Busy Moms

1.     Menu Plan and Grocery Shop Once. Some mothers prefer to go grocery shopping a few times a week and prepare meals “on the fly.” However, if you want to cut down some of your stress and open up more time, plan your meals out for every day of the week before the week starts. This is one of the biggest tips of help for busy moms because it takes the ‘guess work’ out of meals.  You simply plan your meals, make out your grocery list and head to the store…get everything you need for the week’s meals to ensure you don’t have to go to the grocery store again during the week. Planning your meals out in advance and only going to the store once should save you at least three hours a week, if not more! Oh, and another helpful tip…use the crock pot.

2.      Have a Chore Schedule. Another beneficial thing you can do to free up some time and stay organized is to create a weekly schedule for all the chores that need to be done around the house. For instance, we all have to empty trashes for “trash day” so that should be done the day before the trash man comes. You can also schedule chores such as doing laundry, cleaning the bathrooms, dusting, vacuuming, etc. for specific days throughout the week. When you have a schedule and time allotted for each chore, you will find that you’re much more efficient at completing these tasks, as well as others. Also, get your family members to help you with the chores.

3.      Streamline Things. Surprisingly, it’s the little things that tend to take up the most time. Why? Although they are small, they do take up time and we tend to do several small things at once (like balance the checkbook and pay bills) because we can “check” them off our to-do list. However, many of these small tasks can be taken care of without you doing anything.  For instance, you can set up your regular monthly bills to come out of your account automatically so you don’t have to worry about paying them manually. 

If you have a business you do from home where you sell products or services, then you know how complicated it can be to set up a shopping cart, manage online payments, set up autoresponders and all of the other “little” things that have to be done in order for everything to run smoothly. There are products available like WahmCart that allow you to manage all of these things from one place, saving you a lot of time. The more things you can streamline, the more organized you’ll be and the more time you’ll have as a result.

As you can see, we are of great help for busy moms and we have tips that moms crave.  If you need help with learning how to deal with your busy schedule and would like someone to talk to who can really help, contact me for your 20 minute free consultation. I would love to talk with you about how I can help you to become more organized and stress free.

Coping Mechanisms to Deal with Stress

Nobody is immune to stress: stress is necessary to keep us functioning in certain situations. It’s when it becomes the norm that it creates a problem, which is why we could all benefit from some  simple coping mechanisms to deal with stress.  Here are a few ideas to get you going.

Relaxation

Coping  mechanisms to deal with stress don’t have to involve learning a new skill – although this can be helpful. They can be as simple as learning how to set aside more time for yourself.

A few ideas for this include:

* Walking more often,
* Taking a long, hot bath at the end of the day,
* Listening to music,
* Reading a book instead of watching TV,
* Engaging in a hobby,
* Exercising.

Studies have shown that the more active we are with our hobbies, the more we can get rid of stress. This is why watching TV isn’t included in the list above: although it may feel relaxing, it’s completely passive. Things like reading a book or playing a musical instrument require us to engage in the activity, which works well to help us leave the stresses of the day behind.

Sleep

No matter how much time you take for yourself, your body is always going to be strained if it isn’t getting enough rest. On of the best coping mechanisms to deal with stressis sleep.   Sleep is vital to our health, and this includes stress. Try to make an effort to get into a routine of going to bed at the same time every night, and giving yourself enough time to get a full eight hours sleep.  If stress itself is having a negative impact on your sleeping patterns, then it may be a good idea to talk to a doctor and try self-help techniques such as deep breathing before you go to bed each night.

Socializing

Not all coping mechanisms to deal with stress just involve you: start opening up to others and you’ll find that you can get a lot off your chest. Sometimes the things we worry about can seem bigger than they really are. By talking to someone about your problems, maybe going through all the possible outcomes, you’ll gain some clarity over the situation. Getting out more and socializing with other people can also work as a distraction from stress.

Food And Drink

What we put into our bodies can also have a huge effect on our stress levels. Do you rely on coffee to keep you going through the day? Try to gradually cut down the amount you drink, as caffeine is well known to contribute to stress. It’s also important to avoid sugary foods (that create a high and then a crash), and to eat a balanced diet. Don’t skip meals like breakfast: eating at regular times helps to keep your energy levels constant and reduce stress.

Talk it Out Talk

When stress seems to be all around you and closing in – releasing that stress by verbalizing yourself can be a big help. Whether you are looking to just unload a burden and get the stress off your chest or you are looking to express yourself and get feedback on how to make a change, talking can be a big help. If you feel like you can’t talk to your family or a friend, talk to someone outside the situation. This could be your priest or minister, a therapist, your family doctor or a coach. The key is to get it out and not keep it all bottled up

When it comes to managing stress the best thing to do is to have a plan in place.  These above  coping mechanisms to deal with stress can be as simple as you need them to be: don’t think that you need to change all of your daily habits immediately. Start by taking an hour to yourself each evening before bed, or cutting one coffee out of your daily routine. If you find that nothing is helping, make sure to speak to a doctor about your stress levels.

If you’re struggling with how to deal with stress and anxiety and would like someone to talk to who can really help, contact me for your 20 minute free consultation. I would love to talk with you about how I can help you overcome stress and anxiety in your life and in your business.

Holiday Stress Management Tips

Believe it or not, November is  here, which means the holidays are literally “right around the corner!” This is the time of year when most of us get pretty stressed out. Honestly, how can we not? The kids have a ton of activities to attend before Holiay Break arrives and we’ve got presents to buy, hide and wrap, food to prepare, a house to clean, cards to mail and a ton of other stuff that needs to be done. And, let’s not even get into how stressful our extended families can make things… The good news is that there are a few holiday stress managment tips that you can  use  to help you reduce your holiday stress level.

1. Prioritize –  Once all of the holiday activity notices start making their way into your house, sit down with your family and decide together which ones are the most important and which ones can probably be skipped this year. Don’t be afraid to cross an activity off the agenda this year…it will give you more time to focus on something else, which will help your stress level tremendously.

2. Do As Much As You Can Early –  The great thing about the holidays is that they occur at the same time every year, which gives you plenty of time to prepare for them. Therefore, don’t wait until the last minute to start checking things off your “To-Do” list. There are a lot of tasks that can be done months in advance like writing and addressing your holiday cards (just wait to mail them), making candy (freeze it), Christmas Shopping (you can even wrap early too) and much more. Just look for the things you can start early and get them knocked off the list…you’ll find yourself actually enjoying the holidays when you do this!

3. Get Your Family to Help –  One of the biggest mistakes moms (dads, too) make is trying to do everything on their own. There is no need that preparing for the holidays can’t be a family activity. Although it is work, when you get the kids involved, you’re actually creating family memories too! So, what can the kids help you with? Pretty much anything, depending on their age. For instance, you can enlist their help with the following: making holiday candy, hanging outdoor Chirstmas lights, setting up the tree and decorating the house, addressing cards, cleaning the house. Shoveling snow and many other holiday responsibilities that have to be done.

4. Take Time for Yourself –  Finally, it’s important that you actually take time for yourself to relax during the holidays. Even if all you can do is lock yourself in the bathroom and soak in the tub for an hour, it’s time for you to get away from everything else and regain your thoughts. Finding some time for yourself is essential in reducing holiday stress, so make sure you do it.

By using any of the above holiday stress managment tips, you will be sure to lower your stress this holiday season and get more joy out of the holidays.

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