Nobody Likes a Whiner!
I want to start off by saying this before you read any further — Yes, this is me, Aurelia Williams, but I am about to tackle an issue from an entirely different angle than what you may be used to seeing on this site.
I am standing on my soap box screaming “Mom’s, stop fighting all of your kid’s battles — It’s going to turn them into whiny, weak adults”!! Let’s be honest, who likes whiny and weak adults?!?
Now that I have said that, I want you to know that I am the proud mother of 3 children (ages 24, 20 and 12) and I also raised my brother through his preteen and teen years. You don’t have to tell me how sharp the claws of a mama bear can be (because my claws are sharp) but I have to say — there are times that moms need to retract their claws!
Think about it — if you always run to your child’s side, fight their battles and fix everything for them, how will they ever learn to stand up for themselves and figure things out?
Let’s think about it: Here are the results of fighting all of your child battles:
- They become and stay weak.
- They miss out on learning valuable life skills.
- They will always need you to “fix” things for them.
- They become a TARGET because others will know that they are weak.
- They become whiny adults!
Need I go on?
Don’t get me wrong, I am not saying to just throw your child to the wolves and hope that some animal instincts kick in but moms must start to equip their children with the tools that they need to deal with the problems of today.
Bullying, communication issues, peer conflicts and more are just waiting out there for your child and guess what mom, you can’t be there at all times.
It is important to teach your child to be assertive and confident now so that those skills can remain within them and grow as they grow. Please note that there is a huge difference between being assertive and being aggressive.Assertiveness is letting people know what your wants and needs are; aggressiveness is when you strongly impose those wants and needs on others.
Now, I will climb down from my soapbox and tell you that I am so passionate about this message and I truly want to help you help your child to be strong and confident. I also want to help you to know when to step up and help them fight and when to sit back and be that coach that is in the corner with the water bottle and towel to cool them off after a battle.
I’ve organized a totally free coaching class where I will share strategies with you that will help you know when and how to step into or step back from the battles your kids face.
Hop on over to http://www.reallifecoaching.net/class and sign up. Did I mention it is free? Sign up and perhaps there will be just one less whining adult in the world because of it.