Comments on: Nobody Likes a Whiner!

By: Aurelia

Aurelia — Sun, 29 Jan 2012 04:10:20 +0000

Thanks for your comment Christine. Charlotte sounds like a very sweet little girl and I would just keep encouraging her to speak up for herself. You can use Role playing too to act out how she feels around strangers as well. There will be a recording of the class and my strategies will be usesful for children of all ages. I hope that you signed up to participate.

By: Christine Holroyd

Christine Holroyd — Sat, 28 Jan 2012 14:00:53 +0000

Great post Aurelia. Charlotte my one and only is 6. I have been teaching her to speak up to others and tell them to stop what they are doing or saying and walk away. Well, She has been doing that since about the age of 4, but at this age the offender will follow her, so there goes my teaching out the window. Grrr! But I will persist.

I hope you cover shyness, too because Charlotte is super shy with strangers and even some of my friends still, so speaking up when you’re shy is very hard especially at 6. Does your class mostly cover older kids? And will there be a recording? Being on the other side of the world can make it challenging to attend.

By: Aurelia

Aurelia — Mon, 23 Jan 2012 18:11:27 +0000

Thanks for sharing Chacoy! Isn’t it great to see our children stand up for themselves when needed. Congrats to you for giving your son the tools he needs to handle things!

Aurelia

By: Chacoy

Chacoy — Mon, 23 Jan 2012 18:05:15 +0000

I have also been on both ends before! I am so glad that as a single mom to 1(one) son that I have learned when to step in and when not too!
He has come a long way and I am proud to say that he has done great in being able to stick up for himself when he needs to.
I have always taught him to kill them with kindness but sometimes you can’t keep being nice to someone who keeps being rude*(everyone has a breaking point) so I knew when I got the phone call that he had returned the torment, I was glad yet disappointed that they were going to now punish my son for it(since he had been reporting it since the 3rd grade.)
Needless to say I was proud of my son and me for doing what needed to be done!

Thanks for sharing this eye-opening post!

By: Kristina Salin

Kristina Salin — Thu, 19 Jan 2012 18:56:18 +0000

Great advice Aurelia. I am new at the mommy game but I already see how valuable it is to let my twins fight it out (whatever it is) between them! Within reason of course

By: Aurelia

Aurelia — Thu, 19 Jan 2012 16:56:44 +0000

Hi there Jessie and thanks for commenting! I *LOVE* that you role play with your daughter. That is a super way to expose them to difficult situations in a loving nurturing way! Way to go for her sticking up for herself! I do hope you will join us for the February 2nd free coaching class on this topic!

By: Aurelia

Aurelia — Thu, 19 Jan 2012 16:54:32 +0000

LOL @ the “Ringing the little Snot’s Neck” comment but I think all moms have been there at one time or another Monica!! I love the way that you allow your child to express their frustrations THEN ask them about what THEY did to address it. To many times parents just jump into ‘ATTACK’ mode before talking to their child about ways they can handle certain situations.

Thanks for reading & commenting! I hope you will be at the seminar on Feb 2nd!

By: Monica

Monica — Thu, 19 Jan 2012 15:31:58 +0000

I love this! My oldest daughter is the same age as your youngest. I have always asked my kids when they come home complaining about something that happened at school, well did you tell an adult at school? The answer is usually no. So I tell them well at this point there is nothing I can do. Once they have exhausted all of their options (talking it out with offending child, told an adult other than me) and there’s still a problem I will get involved. But first you need to stand up for yourself. And it’s hard to do sometimes. Sometimes I would really like to ring the little snot’s neck that called my child a poopy head, but since I’m not there and can’t be there for everything they need to learn the process of dealing with this themselves.

By: Jessie

Jessie — Thu, 19 Jan 2012 15:27:30 +0000

I find that it can be very hard to step back and let my kids work it out on their own. Now that my daughter is in school, I am finally realizing that I just can’t be there 24/7 and she has to work it out on her own. We have already run into a situation where she was being teased for wearing dresses/skirts, and she was pretty upset about it. We did some role playing, and she very happily came home the next day and told me that she stood up to the girl picking on her. I am happy to say that she has successfully resolved her own problem – I was so very proud of her!

While it was hard for me to take a back seat and let her handle it, I know that it will do wonders for her confidence and that it will help her grow into a stronger and self-reliant adult.

And I completely agree with you – NO one likes a whiner! (especially a whiny adult!!)

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